There are a variety of ways we can help those who are facing death. The following article highlights how Courtney Strain was able to leave a legacy to her family before she died at age 25 from brain cancer.
http://www.npr.org/2011/04/09/134463410/for-dying-people-a-chance-to-shape-their-legacy?sc=17&f=1001
Helping A Loved One Face The End Of Life
One of the things Courtney Strain left behind was this simple guide for the family and friends of people who are dying. Here are some of the things she wanted people to know:
Hallmark doesn’t fix it all. … Write a letter or send an email. … [Talk to me when] I’m strong enough to sit and laugh or cry with you …
Don’t pretend that everything is going to be OK.
Don’t abandon me at my most vulnerable time. … Sit and pray with me. Don’t just pray for me.
Don’t treat me like a child — even a well-loved child. … Include me in decisions that affect our family or social group …
Instead of asking, “What can I do for you?” offer some concrete suggestions — like bringing a meal or treat, or running errands …
Respect my decisions about my health care — my doctors, my medications and my treatments — and about my end-of-life plans …
Just because I’m dying doesn’t mean I’m any less capable of being your friend. Dying isn’t my whole identity.
Credit: “What You Can Do When A Friend (Like Me) Faces The End Of Life,” BJC Palliative Home Care and Hospice
